Learning to Come From the Heart

How can we make the leap from creating with the mind to creating from your heart?

"Do you feel separate from the person standing next to you? How do we as a small part of the Universe make changes in our world? We all know that we are in a very different world than we were even a few years ago. We know that we are undergoing the greatest global challenges in history of the world. How many of us know someone or are experiencing ourselves some of the greatest challenges in our life so far? It may be easier at this time to retract from our world or get even more self absorbed as we see only the challenges in front of us, we all do it. But now is the time when it is most important to open up, move from the heart and treat everyone around us with the same love and grace as we would our closest loved ones. The antidote is to do the opposite of pulling back or shutting down. It's time to amp up the love within, take a chance and love without condition."-Greg Braden

The mob of "tweens" wrap around the building, letting me know I was in the right place. I drive slowly passed amazed and mortified as I searched for an open parking space. A man with a homemade sign saying Parking, Donations for the church of St. Luke's flagged me in. Perfect, it took only minutes and we were jumping up and down in line to keep warm with the rest of the young teens. My daughter's first official concert, Justin Beiber, at a club in Milwaukee. You can just drop us off my daughter offers to me a few weeks beforehand. "No that's all right," I smile, "I'll pay another $50 bucks and see you through the rest of your teen years," I tease. Standing in line I can hear another mother talking to someone who had made it into the concert already. "The kids are out of control inside, their already kicking, hitting and spitting at each other to get to the front stage," she tells me. I look over at my daughter and her step sister. "Think positive" I smile as they look at me a little nervous now.

"For the past three hundred years science has been trying to prove that everything is connected, and also to prove whether or not we have any influence in this world beyond our bodies. Through quantum physics, we now that it is true. Funny enough, for 5,ooo years the indigenous people have known this and have been communing and connecting with nature as a way of being. It is time to learn from their example."-Greg Braden

We eventually get to the front of the line. "One by one!" they yell at us as we file in. We hang tight and weave through the maze they've created to slow the crowd down. Once we hit the open floor, it was a free for all. Let's dive in the girls yell to me. I lead the way as we hang tight, hand in hand. It was the loudest screaming I have ever known as the first act comes on. The crowd pushes tight, 99% female, screaming and pushing to get to the front. Hot and sweaty I struggle to hang onto both of them as they happily film whatever they can on their cameras and phones.


"Whatever is happening in this world, it is part of something that is much bigger than we know. We can ease the transition by coming back to our truest nature. It involves moving from a heart based experience. It is an energy that is part of the pulse of the earth. We can work with all that is changing or we can tighten up and contract, only creating more suffering around us. The very field that is creating the change is the very field that gives us life."-Greg Braden

Unable to see anyway, I keep my head down and cling to their sweaty arms. the crowd moves and sways, I plant my feet. I watch as a a mother next to my daughter works to elbow her young son a better eye's view. My daughter catches an elbow in her back and turns to ask, "Can you please stop pushing me?" The women retorts saying "why don't you move?""I can't move,"she answers, "why don't you move?" The women yells in her face that she has a nasty attitude and a bad mouth. The crowd keeps smashing inward as the announcer yells at everyone to take three steps back away from the stage. The heat of the bodies adds fuel to the fire as the tension in the crowd mounts. No one was backing down, they only pushed tighter to catch a glimpse of the main act who was still illusive.

Some believe that all the action for creating was in the brain. In fact the brain does generate a tiny electrical magnetic field and a tiny magnetic field. Now science is showing that the heart is much stronger. The very same fields that heal our bodies and connect us with all of life, the feeling and emotion in the heart is the key. Our hearts create the most powerful electrical magnetic field in the body and can literally be measured from satellite 22,00 miles in space. The human heart generates an electrical field that is about 100x stronger than the brain and a magnetic field that is 5,000x stronger than the brain. these are the fields that communicate with the world around us and these are the fields that help heal our bodies and connect us with one another. This way of being connects us to the changes that are happening in the world.-Greg Braden

Finally Justin comes to stage and a frenzy ensues, It takes all my strength to hang onto my two teens, I hang on and pray. With my arms stretched as far as they can, the crowd jostles us all in different directions. My motherly instinct wants to yell, "let's get out of here!" It was in that moment that I remembered I had another choice. I go to my heart instead and focus on my breath, as if I could breath in and out of that space. I focus on the goodness in these people all around me, even though they may be caught up in this moment. I choose to see the kindness in all. I choose to smile at the ones who even tried to crawl under my legs to get closer. I choose to smile at the mother who yelled at my daughter, instead of shooting daggers at the back of her head. I focus on the memories these two girls will have forever at their first crazy concert and felt thankful to be there with them. I focus on being able to leave safely, find my car easily and have an uneventful, safe, happy three hour drive home.

"In order to connect to that space, we have to get out of the thinking mind. If we can learn "or remember" the language of the heart, we can connect to the very field that creates the all of it. The "language of the heart" begins as we hold a genuine feeling of care in our heart. Our heart then sends a signal to our brain and the brain sends back a signal to the heart, and wah lah, a two way conversation begins.This electrical signal in the body can be measured and as we focus,with the optimal signal we create being 0.01 hertz. When we are feeling great care and appreciation, it creates a signal and establishes what they call at HeartMath, "coherence." Optimal coherence sets up conditions in the body for healing. Our immune system gets stronger, our DHE levels increase up to 100%, stress levels decrease and cortisol levels decrease. The best part of it all is that 0.10 hertz overlaps and envelops our planet, linking all life together. There is no them or us in this field. This feeling tunes and hones the language of the heart, connecting us and empowering us in a positive way."-Greg Braden

As the last note was sung, I grab my two and head for the door. Like moths to a flame, the neon sign of T_shirts catch their eye and we quickly buy matching T-shirts, run down the four flights of stairs and drive out of Milwaukee within minutes. It is if time had stopped for us, not a soul seems to have left the building as I pull away. With thousands of people at this concert, it was if we were they only three left in town. We all breathe a sigh of relief as the girls laugh, excited and frightened all at once. "That was the coolest night of my life," they both cheer, as they watch their videos, texting and talking all the way home. I am thankful for the moment I took that breath. It was in that breath that I could choose love and oneness over anger and fear. It is all in the breath, one moment and one choice that we can change our experience and ultimately change the world.

Take a deep breath now and move into your heart. "Rather than thinking how it would feel to be in your heart, breathe and take a moment to bring your hand to your heart space. Touch the center of your chest with your fingertips, gently press your fingertips into the space above your sternum. This gentle pressure brings your focus and draws the awareness from our mind into the place in the body where you feel the pressure. Pretend your breath is flowing in and out of this very space. Feel as you do this, your heart rhythms and breath synchronize. To amplify this sensation, uncross your arms and legs, releasing those pressure points, so all your focus goes to that space over your heart. Breathe slowly and gently until your breath feels smooth and even rather than forced. The moment we put our focus to the heart, the action begins. Once you draw the awareness into your heart and breathe into that space, bring your attention to someone or something that you have great care or appreciation for. Focus on that feeling of love, care and appreciation to find the place in your heart and activate that energy. Feel all the sensations, feel how it feels to be with that person, hold your pet, enjoy that moment in time as you experienced a beautiful sunset, whatever the feelings are, allow them to bubble up and move into every cell of your body. Allow yourself to feel and continue the cycle of heart breathing and heart focusing."- Heart Math

Thank you to Greg Braden for his insights and teachings included in this story. For more information on creating coherence, check out Heartmath.com

Feeling Lost? | Listen to Your Inner GPS

Could our surroundings be an expression of us? Could our interactions with our vehicles and the situations that arise be a direct correlation to our bodies and state of mind? Just as we are all energy, our vehicles are also energy.

I am excited to be on a date with my husband and to see if I made the final cut as an extra in the new Johnny Depp movie. The journey to the movie premiere is the beginning of another new awakening.



As I drive to the theatre, David and I talk about what's the next biggest thing we can imagine happening. Where do we want to go with our lives? What could we dare to dream? I talk of wanting to teach with all who have inspired me to be my best. My intention is to create an image mind map that I could meditate with every day, helping me to gain clarity in my life. The mind map would include pictures of Wayne Dyer on stage, Louise Hay, Shiva Rea, Amma, Eckhart Tolle with my voice in the background repeating affirmations of my vision. In truth, I had been stalling any movement forward on my dream every time my ego asked "how" instead of why. “I don’t even know what I would do or say If I did get on stage with Wayne Dyer or Louise Hay,” I confess. This was the exact mind dialogue that was putting the brakes on my dreams. My ego wants to know when, how and figure it all out first, looking for control.

I felt lost with no direction.

We enjoy the movie, excited to be at a movie premiere and I even catch a glimpse of myself on the big screen getting shot at by Johnny Depp. The drive to the party turns into the old familiar patterns of the ego. I struggle to get directions from a few people on the way out of the theatre. Not understanding which way I was supposed to go, I pretend saying, "Oh sure, I got it." We even try to get the GPS system to work; yet in my rushed state I am unsuccessful. Instead of getting clear, I just start driving.



My state of mind was a direct reflection of my experience. As we are clearly lost, the tension mounts in our car. "Just pull over and ask," David says. I make a quick U-turn as it looks we are about to head out of town and we find a gas station. The conversation turns to old patterns of blame. The "you should've, I wish you’d just, Why don’t you ever" conversation repeats itself. Pulling into the gas station David says,” Come in with me so you can hear the directions, too." I shake my head answering. "Why should I? I don’t ever understand the directions anyway. You just go in, then you can tell me which way to go.”

Sound familiar? “You figure it out, tell me what I should do. I don’t want to accept responsibility. I am unclear. I have no idea what I’m doing. I’m afraid if I take the wrong path, there will be no turning back, I have no control.” All of these excuses apply on the road and also in my clarity of what I need to do in life. My stomach is doing flip-flops, a sure sign that something is not in order. It is time to get clear. Why all this stress around directions? Stress is the same as fear. What am I afraid of? Why am I giving all my power away in this moment?If it is not a positive fulfilling experience, it is time to question why. Why do I do it? What can I learn from this? Where did this come from, when did this start? The ego is creating this fear, keeping me from living the life of harmony and peace, disconnected. It is not possible to be at peace and be stressed at the same time.

The answers lie within. Here is an opportunity to be shown the person I truly am. The answers become clear as I retell the story to my friend the next day. In a new day and a little more perspective, it becomes clear,"I don’t need to know what I would say on stage. In this very moment I am becoming the person who will know. I will be led each step of the way." Five years ago I would not have even tried to be in a Hollywood movie, sit in front of Amma the Hugging Saint, create a yoga TV program, write a book, create a blog, talk on the radio, meet my favorite authors, travel around the world, ect... Five years ago I was not the same person, yet was led step by step on this path to become the person I am today.

Do we ever stop growing? Do we ever stop doing the work? The day I say, "I got it, I don't need to listen anymore," will be a dark day. The process is a never ending joyful process and is not meant to end, ever.

When I do step on that stage or whatever is lined up for me, I won’t be the same person I am today. That is why there is no reason to figure it out. I will be led each step of the way, and experiences of getting lost are the exact pathways I am learning to grow from. Become willing to go beyond what you believe today. Learning means taking in something new. When we see each experience as an opportunity to uncover and remember the Divine part of us, we will never stop growing.


Having no vision, being stuck, feeling lost, feeling loss of control, ECT... Next time you have something go wrong with your car or have certain repeated experiences, take a moment to pause, check in to see if there is any correlation to your thoughts, feelings and state of mind. What do the situations or broken parts represent and see if there is any connection between the parts of the car and what you are thinking and feeling. Are the speeding tickets piling up ( are your feeling rushed, not enough time for everything in your life), too many parking tickets (can’t get your butt moving, not feeling inspired, motivated?) The connection between the mind and body is amazing and each situation can be handled to work for you. As I mentally go back to my conversation on the road, it was obvious that I was feeling lost, out of control, without direction. The contemplation of the self is one of the best tools to grow. There was no one to blame, to fix or to feel guilty about. It is a lesson to grow in order to become the person I need to be for the next part of my journey. Trust your higher self to lead you, follow your bliss.