Tuesday, March 31, 2009
Sometimes my husband gets angry when I point out the Law of Attraction and how it's affecting him/his life and therefore my life. How do we stay focused and apply all the things we've heard and read to our daily lives and not get pulled back into old patterns and feed the Ego and regress and have even further to go!
***I used to think that my husband had to be on board with all my changes and stay up to speed with all I was moving towards. My second marriage is the perfect example of pushing against. Instead of focusing on the good, I saw only the dysfunctional family and my present unhappiness. As I stepped on my new “spiritual path”, my ego made another identity of me as a spiritual person. I judged others and decided that everyone around me needed to change with me or else. I thought they all needed to be on the same path in order to find myself. My ego became stronger and the struggle to break free increased. I didn’t realize that I was the only one who needed to change. I wanted my husband to be on the same spiritual path as me. As I started to feel better about life I wanted him to feel better about life. Instead I let what he was living and what he was feeling attract my attention. I then kept looking at what is instead of the dream of what I wanted. I let myself get separated from feeling good and my connection to God. From there I could not help him or help myself. If he was fearful, then I became fearful. From there I blamed him for losing my connection to God. I acted as if I had no control over my life. The more I focused and judged my husbands behavior, the worse our situation became. If I had been hopeful about his happiness, the energy could have shifted. I was trained to look around and have knee jerk responses to what is. When I witnessed his questionable behavior, I absorbed it and lived it. Once I started to care more about how I felt, my life began to shift.
You don't have to worry about your husband’s connection/ vibration, if you’re in a state of connection. If you feel connected(joyful), you're going to dominate the vibration. We forget that we get to control the way we feel, because we get to choose the thoughts we think. Most of us think that we only have the option of responding to circumstances that surround us. From there we attempt the impossible, controlling the circumstances around us, which only feeds our feeling of frustration and fear. It doesn't take very much living of life to discover you can't control all of those situations or life experiences. But you can control your energy and attention. And when you control the energy and attention to your own thoughts, you've controlled everything that has anything to do with you.
So we give our mates a break. We need to remind ourselves that we created the relationship we are in, all of them. We created them long before we met any of the people we are experiencing right now. We are living what we have been putting into our basket for a long time. But now when we live something that is not a match to what we have been putting into our basket, it feels rotten. We don’t feel rotten because our relationship is rotten, we feel rotten because we’re picking out the negative aspects and using them as our excuse to feel rotten and these thoughts aren’t a match with what you had dreamed of as family or marriage. The pain is about not keeping up with the dream. It’s not about what your mate did or didn’t do. It’s about us not living up to the dream. It’s no fun when you have a dream about your mate and then have them not keep up with your dream! How could they know what you dream? We need to give our mates a break! The matches will line up as we allow the matches in. Don’t ask your mate or anyone to be what you’ve been dreaming, just keep your focus on the dream. Flow rather than force.
The key to staying focused comes back to get happy, find things to appreciate and choose happiness.
-Make lists of all the things you love about your mate, remember the good times you’ve had, look at favorite pictures of fun times, step back from once in a while, keep your focus on the dream.
-Take time to be with yourself, take time to meditate or get outside in nature counting your blessings, take a bubble bath, pamper yourself, be good to yourself. From our state of connection, we become uplifters, from there we uplift instead of getting downloaded!
-Pay attention to where you put your thoughts, find things to appreciate about your husband and give him a break. It is not his job to uplift you, as it is not your job to keep his connection. Look for things in this moment that are a match to your dream of “relationship” that you’ve been putting in your basket.
-Keep writing the story. When you’re a match to what you’ve been putting in the basket, you can’t miss. You will become it and live it when you let go and stop focusing on what doesn’t match. It’s not that your relationship has slipped form what it was; it’s more that you may be turning away from what it has yet to become. Its not so much that it was good, and now its horrible, its more that through all of it, you’ve been adding to that basket of what you want and you feel rotten when you aren’t moving towards the dream. Your dream keeps getting bigger and it’s your job to stay focused on the dream, no one else’s.
-Focus on appreciating throughout the day, look for things to feel good about, practice joy, practice understanding, focus on the positive, practice compassion.
-Speak only when you can come from the heart. Let go of lecturing or explaining your position, let go of complaining and rationalizing, become all that you would like to see more of in your life and keep your focus on your dream!
I am in deep appreciation for the teachings of Abraham-Hicks and the positive influence they have had on my life and the ideas shared in this story.
Monday, March 30, 2009
I am most interested in what to eat nutritionally speaking, ayurvedically speaking, best energy, whatever. I have been sitting on my last 20 pounds and they are not budging and would love to know what’s up with my mid-section! What is the perfect food?
***The most perfect food for all of us is water. Drink as much water as your body asks for and then eat anything else that feels good to you. I focus on seeing food as energy rather than this is good and that is bad.
In the past I put a lot of attention on my weight and the numbers on the scale. I did it all. I lived on only tuna and spinach, exercised for hours at a time, weighed myself throughout the day, I starved and deprived my body, you name it, I did it.
As I started my own personal journey of self-discovery and began looking inward, I became aware that there was more to this than meets the eye. I threw away my scale, which helped. I focused on loving myself, I wrote affirmations, I examined any negative beliefs I had about my body, looking within to release all negative self talk. All of this is a good start. It became the launching pad for my desires to manifest.
For me the quickest way to create change on this subject was to step away from it all together. The fastest results I have seen in my personal weight loss remained illusive until I found another place to flow attention and completely forget about the weight or size of my body. After giving birth to my son, I carried an extra 15 pounds for over 18 months. I did not give it much attention, and if I did, I would ask myself, “And who is judging you?” Loving myself at any weight was an integral key. Getting happy in other areas of my life got the energy flowing. Instead of judging my body, I made it my friend, loving it as is.
Without even trying, the acceleration rocket that put my weight loss into motion was focus and passion. All my complete attention became required when we became syndicated for international sales with Happy Yoga with Sarah Starr. My excitement and exuberance became the energy booster for my metabolism as well. The focus on what I love to do, set every other previous desire I'd launched, on fire. Instead of worrying about what was the right thing to eat, did I eat too much, am I hungry, is it time to eat, ect... creating the TV show had my undivided attention as well as taking care of my family. The last 15lbs of mommy weight were suddenly gone without any work, any attention, only passion and excitement in the direction of joy. After spending my ten and adult years on every diet conceivable, pill on the market or weight loss gimmick, I can sincerely attest to the flow of life as being the best plan ever created!
I used to be afraid of my body. I was afraid if I didn’t regulate every aspect of what I put in, how much I moved it, if I ate the “wrong” thing, that it would trick me and fall apart. I didn’t trust my body to know how to function on its own and when it got sick I became angry at it. Most of the time it only confused me and frustrated me, not understanding metabolism, what’s happening with the cells of the body and why it works the way it does. Most of us don’t trust our bodies.
Imagine your body as a multifaceted high tech computer that has the necessary equipment to extract the components that your body needs. Your body breaks everything down and the cells attract to themselves the parts of the usable stuff that they need. Your computer program has the ability to efficiently use what you’re eating unless you’re angry or guilty about it. You need to make peace with what you are eating, or your computer program can’t utilize it. When you love what you’re eating your body works properly. Eat, love and enjoy your food instead of making all food your enemy. Instead of finding something wrong with what you’re eating, take pleasure. We tend to have a love hate relationship with our food. You want the food because your body needs it to work properly. We are born with a guidance that lets us know when it is time to refuel and we have a cellular need for food. But before we even swallow our food, we create an inner battle, which makes it harder for our bodies to use the food. That's why different people can eat the same food and get different results. Have you ever met the skinny person who can eat all they want? Are you pushing against or flowing with life? If the push-flow factor wasn’t true by now we should have figured out a method that works for everyone. There is a reason there are millions of books on the shelves today about weight loss. The reason we haven’t come close to finding the perfect formula for weight loss is because we have left out the push-flow factor. It isn’t what we eat; it’s how we feel when we eat it. It’s not what we say it’s how we feel when we say it. Its not what you do, its how you feel when you do it. When we step back on to the path of feeling our way to good (God), life begins to take you in the flow of all you desire.”
Sunday, March 29, 2009
I wish I could just paint and create all day rather than get interrupted by going to work to make money. Any advice?
***The idea of creating and working joyfully recently came into my life as I began spending my days transcribing the new "Happy Yoga with Sarah Starr" episodes for closed captioning. After doing half the season, I began to look for a way out. Who could I enlist to do this dreaded job? I did not want to spend my days typing, it did not feel like fun. My real work became to see that I could have fun doing whatever I do. By saying this is play when shooting the TV program and this is work when transcribing, I set myself to never have fun doing an integral part of sharing Happy Yoga with an international audience.
I began to remind myself that I am one who plays endlessly and sometimes I play doing yoga, sometimes I play in the park, sometimes I play with my kids and sometimes I play typing, I am always playing. I am a player, I play all day. It is all in the mind set. Most people say this is my free time and this is my work time. This is when I am free and happy and this is when I am chained to a desk unhappy.
Find a way to remember that you are free to choose all of it. You are free to go to work to make money or stay home, you are free to get paid or not get paid, you are free to feel happy while you are doing it or bad while you are doing it. You are free to make the best of it or not to make the best of it, you are free to look for things to appreciate or free to complain. We all have total freedom and control because we have control of our thoughts. It only feels like we aren't in control of our day because we aren't controlling where our thoughts go.
Direct thoughts to appreciation and joy as often as you can in the day and you will begin to see the absolute connection of how you be and think and what is reflected back into your day. You can make a difference in how you feel and then in what you experience in your day.
Do everything you do in the moment for the sheer pleasure of being in the moment joyfully. As I transcribed the TV program just to get it done or over with, the moment was lost. I was always on to the next in my mind and never fully present. Life is in the moment. As you love what you do in the moment, you will not be worried about the list of things to get done at work. As I let go and saw typing the close captioning as a way to share my joy rather than work to get over with, I became excited about doing the typing. Before I knew it I was done in half the time. I became fully present in the process and time dropped away. I became so lost in the process that even when I could smell my grilled cheese starting to burn on the grill, I ignored it. I kept typing until my fingertips tingled. My husband is still razing me for the damage done to our now "warped beyond repair" grill pan!:)
Friday, March 27, 2009
I am currently looking to add new information to the workshops I teach! What are you needing?
I realize that life is changing for all of us on every level....
Stress at the workplace
If you could have a book or class geared to help you specifically, what would your most important questions be? You can use the above topics or any of your own. Anything you want to hear about, whatever I could help you with, absolutely anything you'd like to ask, I am open to!
I appreciate your time and help in creating classes to help many more. You can email me at email@example.com with any topics, ideas and questions.
In-JOY the day, Sarah
My intention is to help by giving feedback on my blog and also hoping to receive feedback from all of you as to what is useful, what changes you have made, how this feedback has helped or not helped. I do appreciate your time and I will post a question and advice from my own experiences to see if I can shed some light in the here and now...
For me, Time Management and Stress at the workplace are synonymous or at least related to each other. I'm thinking that better time management would relieve some of the stress at the workplace. I sort of procrastinate when the task is something I don't enjoy, but on the other hand, I feel so much better inside when I can cross things off my list when they are complete. I often find there are too many responsibilities/tasks going on at the same time. Continuous interruptions impede completion of tasks.
Thank you for your interest in all of us!
***We cannot create what we want through action, so all our efforts, energy and time are not as important as how we create through energy. This is the fast track to creating what we want...
The teachings of Abraham-Hicks offer..."As you live a life of not enough time, or lived what you don't want, the universe has heard your asking for something different, the first step of creating anything is the asking.
Step two is to know that it is given, it is waiting for you to catch up to it, see it as if it were waiting on the other side of a door you were about to open.
Step three is the hardest part, you need to let it in. By becoming it, you let it in. How would it feel to be a person with more than enough time? How would it feel to have your list completed? How would it feel to see your tasks finished? It is in the becoming of it, that we create it. This is the fastest way to creating anything you want in your life."
A practical step to take in the office when you are feeling overwhelmed is to take a step back. Close your door, or step outside and take three deep breaths. Focus as you breath on how it would feel to be have it all completed. How would it feel to have extra time on your hands? What would you do? How would it feel to do it? It is in the BE-coming of it that we bring it into our experience!!!
If you want to speed this up, look for something to appreciate, ANYTHING!!! It can be a beautiful sunrise,a crisp fall morning, a loved one in your life, a lunch break with delicious food, ect... Use this appreciation time as an excuse to get into sync with who you truly are, an amazing creator! When you are in sync with you you really are, all of those things that you have been asking for and are waiting for you behind that door begin expanding into your experience. You don't need to figure out how it will even come about. (How could this list possibly get done today?...) You do not need to figure it out when you are in alignment with God, it will all unfold, it is all being taken care of on a bigger level. We just need to get out of the way so that we can see the opportunities as they come. The more we try to figure it out, the slower it comes, we muck it up with our questioning and doubt. Tend to your energy and you will have more leverage that you have time... If you are feeling that time shortage, it is because you are spending too much time micro managing your life.
Of course you have to do the things you have to do but begin everyday with your intention....
today it is my intention to look for things to appreciate all day long, as positive as I can find, this is all our work. No matter what is going on we look for something to appreciate or feel positive about. No matter how you're feeling, keep reaching to a feeling that is even a tiny bit better, that is when the shifts happen.
As you love life, life gives you more things to love:)
This may take some practice, just to your best and be easy on yourself if you take a step back into frustration or feeling overwhelmed. Keep working on the feeling place of what it is you want. If you feel that negative emotion, put your focus back on the feeling place of what you want, practice it a thousand times a day if need be.
the Abraham- Hicks teachings share...The law of attraction is drawing you to that door, it is waiting for you, you just need to let it open... you launch the request, Law of attraction creates it, it is all lined up for you, you're the last to show up at the door! As you appreciate you children, your family, a mate, a cat, the sunset, walking on the beach, remembering a nice dream, looking at a beautiful flower, when your complimenting someone, when you are happy with yourself, when you are pleased with where you are right now, when you are eager for more of life, you are in a position to allow that door to open. There is no reason to hold yourself back from any of it. Just open the door and keep appreciating when it does come!
My cry for help comes out in a rush over the phone lines. Sophia asks, “When do you have time to come over?” I answer with more frustration, “Well I’m waiting for people to show up for a class, but it looks like I’ve blocked that, too!” In reality I am grateful for the no-shows. It gives me the time I need to realign myself with Sophia’s help.
I walk into my friends home to find her reading by the fireplace.” What’s new?” she asks cheerfully. I sit in the chair across from her not knowing where to start. I take a few deep breaths. I begin my story.” The show is lined up and I was doing great until this week. For some reason, I can’t sit back and let it happen. I am compulsively making phone calls to businesses, feeling misaligned and knowing they will say no thanks.”
I laugh out in my frustration, smiling, telling the story. I know it’s only a story and I also know I can stop it at anytime. I know I can get my heart back into alignment with Source.
She asks,” Do you want to know the truth? I smile knowing it will sting. She continues with my nod, “It’s your control issues again.” She says smiling. “Your ego is getting in the way. This is not about you, Sarah. Get out of the way, so God can work through you. You’re stopping the flow because you think you have to make it happen.”
In my weak defense I answer, ”Yeah but I lined it up, now I have to take the action steps like all the motivational tapes say.” She replies, “You already did the steps. You filmed the show. You are already putting the show on the air. Now let the rest happen. You do not need to spin or toil. Let yourself become the Godling you are. You’ve already done the work. Allow yourself to let go and become the instrument of God. You already have everything lined up. Stop blocking it with your ego. You’re not creating this, God is. He can line it up much easier than you can.”
The next question hit some core beliefs. “Do you feel guilty?” she asks. I pause to look inward. “Yes. I feel guilty if I’m not busting my ass like David is. I feel like I need to show him how much I do. I feel guilty if it doesn’t look hard. She asks,” Has he even complained about producing the show?” I reflect back and reply,” No.’ She continues, “Can you see this as an outlet for him to be creative?” I answer,” Sure I guess. I just feel bad because he’s not painting; instead he’s working on the show. She asks again,” Is he complaining he’s not painting?” Again I answer, ”No.” Sophia gets to the bottom asking,” So where is all this old guilt coming from? Why do you need to write a story? Why can’t you enjoy the ease of your manifestations?” I smile, yes, she is right. I am blocking it with guilt and fear of the show failing.
She asks,” Are you afraid of being liked and admired for what you’ve created?” I ponder this concept for a moment. Yes. A part of me feels guilty for succeeding on any level. She inquires deeper,” Is it the old self-worth issues coming back? Can you see yourself as God or is that too far to reach? I smile, as I understand how I’ve been closing myself off. I see now this contrast is all perfect. It is here to help me see the Godling I am. There is power in letting go. There is power in allowing God to handle the details.
I have forgotten my own power. I have forgotten to embrace my God-likeness. I have forgotten “I” do not need to control the outcome. I have forgotten to use the power of God moving through me, as me.
Doubt and denial of my Godliness is making this impossible. It is not “I” doing. I am answering God’s invitation to use the essence of the Infinite within me to produce the outcome. God can produce any outcome. It’s not about me doing; it’s about it doing me. I will become the instrument and let it wield me rather than me wielding any power. I am the flute and God is the breath. I will join with the divine and determine God’s will. I will reidentify myself as God’s instrument.
I realized I was putting too much stock in my own ability and the outcome on my own. It all came to a crashing halt. Completing this show separate from Source will not work. In recognizing there is no separation, there is humility and humbleness. Humility replaces arrogance. I needed to rearrange my thinking about myself so I could fully understand. I am that which I am praying to. I called upon the larger part of me that is God to move through me to do the Universe’s will. Abundance, happiness, health, peace, a harmonious marriage, family and career are to be called forth from an already existing supply.
God and I are one. God uses me to will his power. I begin to use “the real secret” to create what my heart wants, not what my ego thinks it wants in separation. I have personal power through God. My every thought is a prayer. My every word and action is a prayer. I will use this secret to create harmony. I will change my identity. I will re-identify with who I think I am. I now know I am the living spokesperson of God on Earth, as we all are!
****By the end of the week, I had an entire season of commercials sold, all of who were happily excited to be part of our creation!!!